Please excuse the ‘vintage’ photo. We don’t get out much 😉
Saying “please” and “thank you” is something I’ve drilled into Alea’s head since before she could even talk. Before she uttered her first words (she said mama first… of course!) she was signing the word “please” when she wanted something from one of us. I took great pride in that and it made me happy to know that my little girl was being raised with such great manners.
Something struck me the other day, though. Cory and I were talking on the phone while he was on his way home from work, much like we do everyday. We were talking through the usual conversation about how both of our days went, what was for dinner, the usual. We then began talking about our roles and what Cory said next, really surprised me:
“Thank you for doing the dishes everyday, hun. I hate, absolutely hate doing the dishes.”
What? I do the dishes (almost) everyday. It’s just what I do. If there are dishes in the sink then I rinse them off, put them in their designated spots in the dishwasher, toss in some detergent and I’m on my way. Very rarely do I think twice about this mundane chore. But hearing Cory thank me for something that I do everyday, it made me feel really good inside. He truly does hate doing the dishes. I can say with complete honesty that I don’t remember the last time he even attempted to do the dishes.
Do I expect a “thank you” every time I do the dishes? Of course I don’t. It’s part of my responsibility. But, does Cory expect a thank you everyday he comes home from work? Of course he doesn’t. It’s part of his responsibility. Sadly, I’ve never even once thought about saying “thank you” to him when he comes through the door after work. I thank him every once in a while for providing for us and for helping me through nursing school and enabling me to be a stay-at-home-mom (for the most part) for Alea’s first couple years of life, but I really don’t thank him as much as I should.
It’s not anything crazy or hard, but I really want to start thanking him for the little things more.
I mean after all, he may not do the dishes, but he does clean the shower for me. And I absolutely hate cleaning the shower.
Have you thanked your significant other today?