Photo by: Landon Michael Photography
Living next door to us we have the cutest elderly couple I think I’ve ever laid eyes on. Every morning they drink their coffee together on the front porch and spend their day perfecting their flower gardens and doing little things to make their yard look pristine. Wrinkles from years of laughter and smiles paint across each of their faces and you can just tell by the way they look at each other and spend meaningful time with one another that they’re still very much in love.
One day when I was outside hanging clothes on the line to dry, they wandered over and introduced themselves. This was prior to Cory and I’s wedding, so I told them that we were going to be getting married soon and they proceeded to tell me, “We’ve been married for 67 years this summer!” Without missing a beat, I asked what their secret was, eager to get some inside advice on how I could start out my marriage on the right foot.
She looked at me with a twinkle and her eye and said:
“You know what to say. You know what not to say. And you know when to shut up!”
Isn’t that the truth? I do know exactly what to say to tick Cory off and Cory knows exactly what he shouldn’t say. And vice versa. But sometimes, we both say the exact opposite of what we’re supposed to say and that’s exactly where we go wrong. The beauty of our love and our relationship is that we know each other so well and well enough that we’re able to forgive the other if one of us missteps our boundaries.
But why go that far to begin with? The most important piece of that advice given to me is to know when to shut up. I have a feeling that one’s going to take a little longer to figure out. I mean, they had been in practice for 67 years after all, right?