Now I know that title is going to make me sound similar to a crochety, cranky old lady, but that’s okay. It perfectly sums up and concludes the main point that I’m hoping to make in this blog post. I know that typically, I would say and encourage the complete opposite– that you are perfect in every possible way. That you’re an amazing person full of rainbows and butterflies and you should never ever let anyone dull your sparkle. If that’s what you’re looking for from me today though, you’re most definitely not going to get that in this post.
Lately I’ve had a serious problem with people’s portrayal of perfection.
It’s not that I don’t know that everyone has their hardships and that everyone is living an imperfect life, but it’s the fact that some do their best to try and hide that and sugar coat it to the best of their abilities. There’s something to be said for turning a negative into a positive– I’m all for that kind of attitude– but there’s also something to be said for someone who attempts to do that in every single aspect of their life. There’s something to be said for someone who refuses to be real and own up to the fact that their life isn’t all unicorns and sprinkles. (If you will.)
Instagram is a great example of this. My favorite part about Instagram is all of the beautiful photos people post. I love a gorgeous selfie, and seeing perfect little kids in perfect little outfits and an amazingly clean house as much as the next person, but sometimes it grows tired. It’s almost comical the attention someone gets when they post a “make-up free selfie” or a picture of their sink overflowing with dirty dishes. I’ve posted both! Those two things are so very much a normal, constant occurrence in my life. Sure, I probably won’t share those pictures every single day, but I just want you to know that I’m human. I’m real. Life is dirty and messy and that’s what makes it so beautiful. That’s what makes you beautiful.
Even so, I find myself growing envious of these “perfect portrayals” on Instagram, Facebook, and from “real-life” discussions. It’s silly and completely stupid of me, but I know I can’t be alone in this. Who doesn’t get a tinge of envy when they see their friend just bought a brand new car when your 2008 Ford Escape is already getting rust above the wheel wells (true story) and who doesn’t feel jealousy building up in their chest when they see a friend who just bought x-y-z that’s been on your wish list for years. 9 times out of 10 I snap myself right back to reality and remember that I’m not in debt, I work hard for the things I have, and I save every penny I can to pay cash for those things in the future. #justsayin
We are all perfectly imperfect. Can we please just show one another that? Your house may be pretty, beautiful and everything you’ve ever wanted, but maybe your sink is always overflowing with dirty dishes. Show us that. Maybe your daughter never lets you brush her hair and is always sporting a silly little milk mustache and saying “I mustache you a question!” (That may have been a confession. I will not confirm or deny that!) Show us your snarls, your struggles, your LIFE.
It is perfectly imperfect and so are you.