Sometimes being a working mom is a struggle. Plain and simple. I consider myself to be a working mom of two jobs, rather than just one. You see, I have my 8-4:30 nursing job and then I also have this hear blog which can be a job in and of itself somedays. I make a decent amount of money from both and therefore they both require a decent amount of work. Somedays it seems like I come home from working an 8 hour shift to working more as a mom and then working more on my blog. It’s like the work is never-ending and I rarely get time to just sit down and do nothing.
Unfortunately, sometimes working hard with both jobs and keeping up with the cleaning and laundry that needs to be done around the house, means that I’m not being as great of a mom as I can and should be. I you know me at all, you know it’s really hard for me to admit that I’m not “excelling” in a certain area of my life.
Being a mom is hard work. But it’s work that sometimes I worry I take for granted. Sometimes I catch myself saying “no” more times than I say “yes” to my little Alea and sometimes I don’t take as much time to play with her as I should. Don’t get me wrong. I make sure that we spend time together when I’m home from work. Having her in daycare and working more than full-time makes me miss those chubby-cheeked smiles and giggles something fierce, but when exhaustion hits… it hits. You know?
My goal now? Is to say yes more. I’ve learned over the past week that it’s so much easier to say “yes” than it is to say “no.” You see, when you say “no” that mommy guilt overcomes you. You question whether you’re being a good mom and you question if your little one is truly happy. Those aren’t easy questions to leave plaguing your mind. When I stop for a second, think about it, and say “yes” to playing barbie princesses with Alea or playing tic-tac-toe for the hundredth time, something inside of me changes. We giggle together instead and we smile and laugh.
Sure, sometimes you need to take the time to get the laundry done or get that blog post done that was due 3 days ago. But sometimes it’s easier and better for your family to just say “yes” and spend time with them instead.
And it’s better for you in the long run, too. Trust me!
What do you need to say “yes” to more with your kiddos?