I was recently listening to my new favorite podcast, Marriage More on my drive into work. I used to listen to NPR every morning (yes, I know, I’m a little ridiculous), but ever since the discovery of podcasts my morning commute has been forever changed! On this particular morning, they were discussing The 5 Love Languages.
The 5 Love Languages are all about what makes you feel loved. It encompasses 5 different self-explanatory love languages that include:
1. Acts of Service
2. Physical Touch
3. Words of Affirmation
4. Receiving Gifts
5. Quality Time
Cory and I had taken the quiz a while ago and were both rather surprised by our results. I mean, as a guy, I thought *for sure* his number one would be “physical touch,” but was surprised to find out the Quality Time was his number one love language. It’s amazing what you can learn about yourself and your partner by just taking an simple 10 minute quiz.
My love languages are in the following order:
1. Acts of Service: This came as no surprise to me. The one thing that stresses me out most is when I don’t get the help I need around the house. I’m mainly responsible for a majority of the household chores– the big ones including dishes (we don’t have a dish washer) and laundry. These weigh heavily on my throughout the week just knowing that I’ll be spending my weekend getting the house in order after a busy week. Having Cory help out (preferably without asking him to) makes me feel so, so loved.
2. Quality Time: This is the reason I’m always begging Cory for a date night. We see a lot more of each other now that he doesn’t work into the night like he did at his previous job, so we’ve been spending more quality time together at home. Sometimes it’s just nice, though, to get out without Alea’s silly antics interrupting out time! However, a movie night at home is always good for us homebodies.
3. Words of Affirmation: This love language tied with “quality time” and this has been one of my love languages since I can remember. I remember always feeling so proud and feeling so good about myself when my parents would tell me I did a good job on something. When I get positive feedback from my manager or co-workers at work– that just drives me to continue working hard!
4. Physical Touch: Not too surprised about this one. I love a nice warm embrace and a sweet kiss, but I’m not driven by physical touch. I would much prefer my own space! Just ask Cory. We upgraded to a king-sized bed and we each sleep on our separate sides! Snuggling is great and all, but I just need room to breathe!
5. Receiving Gifts: Don’t get me wrong, gifts are always nice, but they don’t make me feel “loved” per say. Ahem, Cory, but that shouldn’t stop you from buying me flowers every once in a while, okay?
Funny story: I finished the end of this podcast at home while I was doing dishes. Cory kept coming into the kitchen and pinching my butt and hugging me. After about the 5th time, I told him, “You know what? You should stop loving me with your love language and start loving me with my love language!” And do you know what he did? He went upstairs and started VACUUMING! He then proceeded to vacuum and shampoo the stairs, vacuum out my car and shampoo my car seats. Impressive! I guess I better hold-up my end of the bargain, eh?
Have you taken the 5 Love Languages Quiz before? If not, you’ll absolutely love it. Both you and your partner should take it. Then put it to use! Start loving each other with your love languages and you’ll feel even closer!
What is your love language?