It’s kind of a funny thing. When you’re pregnant and when you have a newborn you get a sudden influx of advice in many, many forms. Sometimes that advice is welcomed and sometimes you just want to say “Thanks, but no thanks.” You know what I mean? It’s just that, parenting in and of itself is uncharted territory. When you buy a new washer and dryer it comes with a manual. You know exactly what you’re getting and you know exactly where to look if you have questions about a certain function or where to look if something isn’t going quite right. But when you have a baby? Yeah, those precious little bundles of joy just don’t seem to come with a manual of any sort.
Now, I like to think I have a handle on the basics of parenting. Keep them fed, keep them clothed, provide them with safety and security, and those smiles and giggles are a huge bonus! But when it came to having two kids I just didn’t know what I was getting myself into.
I constantly feel like I’m being pulled in two very different directions. Alea needs help with her homework and Mckenna needs to be held. Mckenna needs to have her diaper changed and Alea is asking if I’d like to play a board game with her. We’ve made plans numerous times to go to the Children’s Museum, but Kenna’s nap always seems to interfere with that. It’s just a struggle to juggle and meet everyone’s needs, ya know?
Looking back, I just wish someone would’ve said, “Hey just so you know, having two kids is a little tough.” I wish someone would have said that to me. It was a big transition and it continues to be something I have difficulty juggling. I heard comments that “when you add a third, it’s no big deal, they all just fall right into place.” But maybe that’s the thing. Maybe going from one child to two children is just hard and people don’t want to talk about it?
Thanks for listening to my Wednesday morning ramble, friends. It’s just something I’ve been thinking a lot about lately and I wanted to be the one to say (if you haven’t heard it yet) that adding a second child isn’t easy. It’s hard. It’s difficult to divide your time evenly and sometimes it’s a struggle to keep everything straight. Those smiles, those giggles, and those hugs and kisses make it all worth it, though. You can trust me on that!
And usually I would take the time to apologize for these super-grainy iPhone photos, but honestly? This is real life. 90% of the photos I have of Mckenna and Alea are taken with my iPhone and so that’s just what you’re gonna get. They’re not perfectly staged, they don’t have perfect outfits on (heck, Alea’s in a towel), and the quality leaves something to be desired, but this is our life with two kids.
It’s not perfect, it’s not always easy, but these silly moments — I live for them.